We have all at some moment been upset, it is natural, and you cannot stop children from expressing their feelings, especially when they are angry. However, you can guide them on how to behave when they are upset. The way we feel when we are angry is normal, but we can decide on the way we react, and that is what children need to know.
Identifying emotions and learning what they feel like is the first step before knowing how to act, let your child know which facial expression is proper or not, and why they should avoid it.
Guide children and tell them that the way they reacted was not right, but do not punish them, they might not learn that way.
Your child also needs to know how to read the feelings or emotions of other people, this will help them read the facial expressions and body language of others, your child can recognise how others are feeling and get a better understanding of how to interact with such individuals. This, in turn, can help him or her create more meaningful and helpful relationships.
Make a list of stress-relieving activities that your child can do when they are feeling upset, sad, or angry, for example, listening to audio stories, taking a bath or composing their own songs. Having such a list makes it easier for a child to cool down; hence, making it easier to address the issue once the mood has lightened.
If your child reacts in a weird way or barks or throws a tantrum while annoyed, do not yell at them; rather, speak politely, as they will also learn to speak respectfully. Children learn a lot from their parents, when you raise your voice at them, they will do the same when they are frustrated, encourage them that all will be alright, and they should not be angry.
Help your child get occupied by listening to music, drawing, colouring pictures, watching a simple movie, going to a quiet area, squeezing a stress ball, blowing bubbles, drinking a glass of cold water, among others, they will eventually feel at ease and better.
Know what upsets your child and help him or her write a story including the things that upset them and the diverse actions, and deal with strategies he or she uses to calm down. Always discuss these stories as this will help a child not rush to react when annoyed.
However, if your child tries to control themselves, either physically or verbally, give them praise and appreciation. They will learn that what they have done is good and will always look forward to doing so.
Let your child also know about some what can happen if they act in a certain way, so that they know how to avoid it, it takes time but keep mentoring them and if they yell at their friends, they ought to say sorry, and promise not to repeat it.
Be the role model, how do you act when you are upset? Remember your child is watching you and will learn exactly what you do. You cannot preach what you don’t do yourself.