It happens all the time. Someone you know is going through something really tough. You want to reach out to them, but you just don’t know what to say. The more you think about it, the more your mind begins to overthink it.
We all have thoughts that inhibit our actions. We question ourselves, should I call or email, or maybe text my friend in need? What if I say the wrong thing and make it worse? What if they don’t want to talk to me? What if I make it worse? Those negative self defeating thoughts keep coming and coming. Sadly, we end up not reaching out and continue to overthink the situations.
Our brains directly control our behavior. When the brain is ‘regulated’ properly it works better. It gives us clarity. How do we get that clarity?
Biofeedback and Neurofeedback provide clearer thinking.
Biofeedback and Neurofeedback are a great ways to help open our brain’s neural pathways that create self regulation to improve, and enhance our neurological and physiological responses. It can help us think more clearly and teach us how to respond to everyday stress in a healthy way. Biofeedback and neurofeedback provide the kind of evidence-based therapy that can benefit everyone. It enables an individual to learn how to change physiological activity for the purposes of improving health and performance in our daily lives.
Clear thinking allows action:
- Don’t assume others have called. Often, even good friends don’t call because they know what to say.
- Don’t text or email. A phone call can make someone feel loved at a time they need it most. They will remember it.
- Don’t worry about saying the wrong thing. The act of you picking up the phone and giving your voice to their pain trumps any of the actual words you’d use in the conversation.
- If they don’t want to talk, they won’t answer. Leave a message. It means just as much.
- If you’re worried about it being uncomfortable, you’re focusing too much on yourself. The phone call isn’t about you. It’s about them, and there is nothing uncomfortable about taking a few minutes to let another human know they matter.
Don’t overthink things. Just call.