The less you respond to rude, critical, and argumentative people, the more peaceful your life will become.
With school shootings in the news these days, there is one common factor that is often overlooked. The majority of school shooters feel the need to kill as a result of being the victim of bullying. Here are some scary bullying statistics from a 2013 study:
Percent of students who reported being bullied at school, on a school bus or on the way to and from school:
• Bullied at school: 21.5%
• Made fun of or insulted: 13.6%
• Subject of rumors: 13.2%
• Pushed, shoved, spit on or tripped: 6.0%
• Excluded from activities: 4.5%
• Threatened with harm: 3.9%
• Forced to do things they didn’t want to do: 2.2%
• Property destroyed: 1.6%
Know and believe in yourself, and what others think won’t disturb you.
- Has frequent meltdowns
- Acts wild
- Has trouble staying focused
- Loses it over little things
- Seems more clumsy
- Performs poorly on tasks you know they can usually do
- Has trouble waking up in the morning
- Craves carbohydrates
- Picks on siblings
We must be willing to do hard work. We must be willing to take risks. This can be a daunting task. We may ask ourselves, “What if I put in all of my time and energy into this hard work and fail? What if it’s all for nothing? What if people laugh at me?”
Quiet those negative voices. We have to give 100%. We can’t give up.
Many studies have shown that people who speak first and loudest tend to persuade others to go along with their positions even when they are wrong. Teach your kids to always analyze and not be led blindly.
Be Strong (Part 2): Bullying
A coward dies a thousand deaths. A child that is a victim of bullying can feel like they die thousands of deaths at the hands of a bully. Despite some of the new “expect the bystanders to help” programs taught in schools today, the only real way to end bullying is for the victim to face their fear and stand up to the bully directly. This may risk pain and humiliation, but is the only true way to put an end to the problem before it ruins one’s life.
BULLYING – If your child is the victim of bullying or harassment, staying out of school appears to be better. Who would want to be in a constant situation of feeling unsafe and fearing for your life every day?
Do not accept unacceptable behavior.
Prior to a parent-teacher meeting, talk to your child to find out if they have any issues they would like discussed. This would include any social, bullying or learning style issues. Sometimes kids will disclose some of this information to their tutor, so you may want to ask us for some feedback too.