These principles need to be kept at the second and third levels as well. (This is most of us promise to do until we have real children to discipline).Reason- logical, not arbitrary, considerate of child and others.Expectations- trusts, values child's ability to be reasonable.Parents/Teachers' Pleasure and Displeasure- works with the child's natural instinct to please those important to him/her.
Dependent on finding the individual key to situations and personalities; the adult needs to be creative; the child needs to feel the logic of the motivation in how it serves him/herself. Such logic is internal and self-serving for the child.(hitting because s/he doesn't have a verbal way to communicate)(telling the truth needs to be rewarded, not just lying punished)
Distracting- there are possible negative aspects to distracting as a method.Motivation- positive and negative (keeping the motivation as relevant and logical to the situations as possible).Positive- rewards and bribes.Negative- scoldings and punishments (Timeout) & (Corporal Punishment).
Consistency between all involved (between parents, between parents and otherimportant adults including teachers) so as not to confuse them.Information Exchange to clarify behavior and responses,share expertise (parent to teacher & teacher to parent)Insight Exchange to disclose and evaluate possibleunderlying reasons for behavior.
Distinguishing Individual problems versus Family problems.