A hug says it all….admin
Children learn from the world around them just as we learnt from the world that surrounded us. Today with being in lock down because of the virus that is going viral around the world, the world as you and I knew it, is changing. So we have to remember a few things:
- Change is just that, change. Now is different from what was.
- Change as a process is hard to deal with and is painful. The outcome is what we make of it.
- The world as we knew it will cease to exist, so what we knew as right and wrong may also change
- What worked for us as children may not work the same way for the children of today.
So what can we do to make good for all of us? USE COMMUNICATION!
When we open up communication with our children, we listen to them when they speak. We teach them to listen to us and what we have to say, when we speak. We hear what they have to say because we have to understand their world if want to understand them. We also want them to hear what we have to say. That is because, even if they don’t do as we did or want them to do, they will have one more option to consider when they make choice for themselves. Yes?
So as responsible adults in the lives of children, be it as parents, family or educators, let us understand that when we share our views and our choices in any situation, we have to make sure that it is just that- our views and our choices. What worked for us and what we learnt from our lives is what we are sharing as valuable information. It will be wrong for us to expect our children to follow us blindly. It would be wrong because we want them to have the skill to evaluate their own situation and make good choices for themselves. We want to feel confident in having taught our children well. When children are confident in themselves they take responsibility for their lives. They then get to enjoy the success of making good choices and learn from the ones that were not so good. We would have taught our children well.
Here we come to a HUG! What is a hug? What does a hug say that no words can say as well? A hug says…..
- I love you
- I value you
- I feel happy with you
- I trust you
- I accept you as you are
- I only want what is best for you.
When we value the other, we will let them know.